Lots of people consider nice people as weak. In fact, I think it’s the opposite.
Even some guys say it’s hard to be nice. It’s true. Being nice actually requires a stronger mind. An understanding mind. A mind that holds no pre-conceived judgments. A mind that is always in control of emotions when someone else wants to be the ass. Some people who say that nice people are mostly associated as being pushovers or ignorant of one’s surroundings should be careful. If you are a person who has a temper or usually gets defensive, it will be the nice person that calms you down. Being nice does not mean being tolerant either. Let’s say you’re a leader of a team (at work, sports, family, whatever) and a member unknowingly does the wrong thing and potentially puts your whole team at risk. Some people say that you should take the gloves off and let them have it. Fine, if you want to be inconsiderate and care less about morale. But generally a nice person who understands that something must be corrected does not need to shove a point down your throat. But instead, offer a solution and, more importantly, help the person learn something. If the person still doesn’t learn, you can still be nice but that doesn’t mean you have to keep that person on your team either.
Genuinely nice people are also potentially popular as well since they are more approachable – especially to those who maybe selective with friends. Nice people usually have backup comprised of very close friends who are bounded by a strong sense of respect. Prideful people are easy prey since there are many more buttons to press but they also find themselves as protectors of nice friends. Nice people are generally respectful people as well. So why not be nice for a day? See what kind of results you get. I’m not saying that you go out there and lay down. I’m saying go out there with a smirk and a nod and get the dirt off your shoulders. If someone pressed one of your rare buttons, don’t lower yourself to petty arguments that lead to nowhere. Instead, try to be nice and understanding. Most importantly, be in control.
